What to do if you are jealous of a guy?
Answered on November 30, 2015 15:38
I once thought about jealousy and came to several conclusions. The main one: jealousy is a harmful and useless feeling. Now I will tell you why and how to get rid of it: 1. Jealousy, if it is strong, it is a continuous negative, torment, no one who is jealous or one who is jealous will receive anything good from her. 2. Watch out for those who are jealous. People tend to be jealous of those with whom they are not in a pair. If the one whom you love is with another person, then your jealousy is unfounded, the person is not with you and does not swear to his loyalty. You need to try to suppress it in yourself. 3. If your man, besides you, meets with someone else, throw him. This is unfair. Why does one give himself entirely, and the second only half or part? Why jealous of someone who does not value you and for whom you are not important just as he is for you? Anyone who really wants to be with you will not need any more girls there. Everything will be fair. so why cling to the factwho in principle is not yours and does not make you happy? It is better to spend energy instead of jealousy on yourself and for yourself, and let the person go to those with whom you hang out and have a great time. Your still ahead, because mutual love, by definition, can not be unhappy) 4. Strong and unreasonable jealousy in a couple is the result of your insecurity about him. If you are very jealous, then you are not sure that you are loved, because at any moment they can change. It is necessary either to strengthen the relationship and get rid of this fear and anxiety, or to break such a connection. 5. It looks very peculiar when trying to cause your jealousy. Sometimes it looks touching (oh, how it tries, if only to find confirmation that he is not indifferent to me), sometimes it is insulting (why torture another in vain?), Sometimes it causes contempt (behaving like a thing, trying to wake up a proprietary in me instinct), and sometimes - ridiculous or pitiful - a person is pitiful (you are trying in vain to cause jealousy to someone who has no feelings for you, therefore such attempts are either just ridiculous or absolutely indifferent; or you feel sorry for a person because you do not love him as he wants). Anything but direct jealousy. The conclusion is simple: if a person is good with you and you are with him, then there is no sense jealousy and jealous at all, to be honest, it does not work, because there is nothing. If a person is good with someone else, then he is simply not yours, but to be jealous of someone else is stupid and pointless - do not waste your energy on it. Jealousy - nasty aunt, it is better to abandon it.